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“You were never meant to carry the burden of adult battles.”

Dear Son.

Dear Daughter.

Dear Child-now-Grown.

If you’re reading this, then something in you knows.

The pieces don’t quite fit. The story you were told feels incomplete.

And somewhere along the line, you started to realise:

You were pushed away—not naturally, but intentionally—from one of your parents.

Perhaps it was subtle:

A cold silence when their name came up.

A raised eyebrow, a dismissive laugh.

Or worse—nothing. Just absence, painted as proof of abandonment.

But let me be clear:

You were never abandoned. You were never the problem. You were never unlovable.

👣 The Wars You Were Not Meant to Witness

Adults fight battles.

Sometimes with lawyers, sometimes with silence.

Sometimes out of pride, sometimes out of trauma.

But one thing is certain: when a parent uses a child to punish the other, everyone loses.

And yet, you survived it.

You were the collateral in a war you didn’t start.

You were weaponised, not because you weren’t loved—

—but because the adults didn’t know how to love each other, or themselves, properly.

Some parents alienate out of fear.

Others out of control.

But in both cases, it’s a sign of one thing: emotional immaturity disguised as righteousness.

🧠 Children Aren’t Stupid — They’re Just Forced to Adapt

You weren’t stupid.

You were surviving.

You believed what you were told because your world depended on it.

A child is wired to attach to the caregiver who’s present, even if that caregiver is deeply flawed.

So you adapted. You aligned. You swallowed a version of truth that made your reality less painful.

And now?

Now you see it differently.

That’s not betrayal. That’s awakening.

That’s healing.

You may feel anger.

That’s okay.

But don’t stay there.

❤️ You Have Every Right to Grieve — But Don’t Stay in Blame

Maybe you were told the other parent didn’t care.

That they stopped calling.

That they moved on.

Maybe they made mistakes.

Or maybe they were blocked.

Worn down. Beaten by a system they couldn’t fight anymore.

You may never know the full truth—but you can know this:

You were worthy of love from both parents. Always.

Now that you know better, don’t waste your life punishing yourself or staying stuck in blame.

Because the truth is, the best revenge is not anger—it’s wisdom.

Not bitterness—but building better.

💸 Before You Chase Love, Chase Healing—and Then Build

If there’s one lesson you must take with you from this pain, let it be this:

Heal yourself before you chase love.

Chase stability before chasing romance.

Build your own foundation before sharing it with anyone.

You saw what dysfunction looks like.

You lived the consequences of poor choices, rushed unions, or unhealed adults bringing children into chaos.

Don’t repeat that.

Make your pain mean something.

Let it fuel your rise—not your ruin.

Learn to earn.

Learn to trust yourself.

Get your money right. Build a solid foundation. Learn to spot red flags—not from paranoia, but from experience.

**Don’t just fall in love—**build a partnership intentionally.

And only then—when it’s solid, reciprocal, and clear—

Invite children into a story that won’t break them.

🔁 Don’t Recycle the Hurt—Break the Pattern

You are now free to break the cycle.

You do not have to pass on the pain you inherited.

Be the one who says:

“I will not manipulate my child to hurt their other parent.” “I will not confuse love with control.” “I will not bring children into chaos I haven’t resolved in myself.”

The past may explain you, but it doesn’t have to define you.

What defines you now are the choices you make moving forward.

✨ The Ultimate Revenge: Understanding and Evolving

You may never get the apology you deserve.

You may never get a full account of what happened.

But you don’t need it to be free.

Your ultimate revenge?

Living in truth.

Healing yourself.

Building a life with clarity, stability, and conscious love.

That’s how you win.

Not by blaming.

Not by hurting back.

But by turning pain into purpose.

“You do not have to pass on the war your parents fought.

You inherit the power to end it.”

So go build.

Go thrive.

And if you choose to love, love wisely.

And if you choose to parent, parent with peace.

The child in you is finally safe.

The adult in you is finally free.

— With love,

To the you who sees clearly now.